Cognitions at Play

Breadman and I had a chat during the wee hours few days back to understand the factors that led to a breakdown in the relationship. To sum it up in one line, it is merely a case of misunderstood intentions which is based on assumptions and speculations. I told him I dun need to see him because he appeared really tired each time we meet and i thought i was being considerate by doing that; he thought i did not want to see him. He gave me one word answers when i wrote him a chunk and i thought he wasn't interested in talking to me; he did that because he was busy at work but he didnt want to go without any replies. When I suddenly learned that his temp job converted to a permanent one, i was upset when he gave me a "i didnt tell you this?"response. I assumed he had told everyone but me. When in fact, i was the first few to know. If i knew that at first, i guess i would be overjoyed because it implied my importance. Well, if we had talked through these issues clearly instead of playing the mind game, perhaps we'll still be happily together. I was kind of fascinated by our thought processes though it might sound a little twisted. Haha... This is what happens when two psychology graduates fall in love: fall into a huge mess. We tend to over analyze and ruminate over simple things. As cliche as it sounds, good communication still forms the basis of strong relationships. That, i need to really work on.